Why no rematch

@Katoh1 said in #1:
> Nobody wants to play a rematch. Why???

Unless I really have no time, I always accept a rematch... Unless the player is much stronger and has already beaten me twice in a row. A 3rd game doesn't interest me if I already know the outcome. This is true for online games. In person though, I will play as many games as a player wants to play with me. If they are a stronger player, there is much to learn and in-person sometimes they will give me tips. If it is a weaker player, sometimes I can offer some tackback moves and help them out. In-person games is a completely different vibe than online. It feels more like a community.

Rematches are just glorified take backs

For the following reasons (possibly) :

a. They want to analyse the last game.
b. They are feeling exhausted.
c. They don't have time for another game.
d. They didn't like the line they played into and want to sharpen their repertoire before another game.
e. They lost and feel like they will lose again against the same person, so they need to get stronger first.
f. They won and want to get off on a win.

And there are even more reasons. Especially in longer time controls, a combination of a, b and c is enough to make a person not want a rematch.

@Toscani said in #39:
> Rematches correlate with take backs ! Take backs is not against the spirit of the game at least not in casual games, while asking a rematch can be.
If you consider chess as competition then take back is unethical and against thr spirit of game, as simple as that.

> If it was the opposite more players would be requesting rematch.
It is the case and several players request rematch actually. I can bet, if Lichess provides us data about all games stats like rematch and accept and denial, then in most of cases either of player would have requested the rematch.
Also, unless a serious concern, one wouldn't deny a rematch in an OTB fixture.

> And why would rematch not make a player unhappy ? They have a chance to play against a player they lost already. It's ridiculous to compound the negative feelings.
This just shows your mindset.
But rematch is there to nullify any advantage to either side to make it more even with series of games between two players to ensure smooth play. A winner may rematch request to let even chance to other player of making it and having another fascinating game of chess which only improves skills.

> Requesting a rematch is disrespectful in accordance tot the previous results. Let the loser ask for a rematch not the winner. A player won so there is no need for a rematch, unless a player analysed the game and discovered a blunder or a mouse slip was claimed during the game. Analyse the game first and if there is reason to play again then send a rematch. It's illogical not to review a game first.

See my previous reply just above. Also, ever heard of series of games. It wouldn't be a rematch if you took break and analyse last game and then get ready for another game. It's not like how rematch works. Rematch works like series of games without any break (in any online game).

> When pressing the quick pick, it's not a tournament or a series of matches that I want. It's called quick pairing for a reason. I don't like to drag out the games until it becomes best 2 out of 3 games. There is not rule for that approach. When using the quick pairing, it's for one game.
Yes, quick pairing is for a game I agree. But when either side presses a rematch request then the other side needs to provide a valid enough reason to deny the rematch as it is no longer just 'a' game anymore.

> Find a friend to play more than one game, not with a stranger.
Quick pairing pairs you with a stranger not a friend, dear!

> You asked: Are you some famous player "Yes" or streamer "No" ... that others want to play with you "Yes" and are waiting in line "Yes" Lol!
How are you famous or which popular person (in real life) knows you?

a_Tauri - I didn't mean to leave without a response. I think the best way to describe what I feel about rematches is that it is natural. One of my favorite past times in my youth was basketball at our school's outdoor courts. Often I would meet a buddy there to play and we'd have a game, probably to 11. This didn't take long so we would probably play a bunch of games. It was fun, competitive and something we did over and over. We never left after one game. This is, I feel, one of many examples of a game or sport, played at any level, where a series of games are played. Of course there aree many that are not.

" Therefore, to help me understand, I would just like you to answer this question, simply and directly :
let's say that one day we meet to play, I win, you ask me for a rematch and I politely don't grant it to you. How do you take it ? Do you simply accept it, or do you complain ? Do you think that refusing is a natural and correct action or do you judge my behavior unsportsmanlike."

Thank you for the question. I think if we met to play we'd have some sort of relationship. We would probably know if there were time constraints for either of us. Depending on the type of game we were playing (timed?) we would both have a sense that there would be time for more games or not. I think we would probably know what each others expectations are in terms of multiple games. There is a key word that you use; "...politely...". If you politely decline, "Sorry, I have to get home for dinner." or the like I would think this natural. If you, after my resignation, stand leave I would see this as wrong and unsportsmanlike. On our screens each player has the ability to communicate. If I request a rematch someone can send a "Good game" and "I've got to go." I do not see an obligation for a rematch, I see there a need for polite behavior and communication regarding a natural part of this game.

@Katoh1 said in #1:
> Nobody wants to play a rematch. Why???
A question I stopped asking. Feel you buddy.

@Katoh1 just read my bio and you will understand why

If I win I don't have a rematch because I know my opponent will be steaming and play twice as good...
Let them stew in their own steam...

@JBark said in #45:
"I think if we met to play we'd have some sort of relationship. (...)
I do not see an obligation for a rematch, I see there a need for polite behavior and communication regarding a natural part of this game. "

I'm glad you think so.
So I was wrong : from reading one of your previous messages I had mistakenly imagined that for you a rematch was something mandatory, automatic, something that one cannot freely choose to grant or not because it is due to the defeated opponent. Sorry for the misunderstanding.